Ericka Getting Married

When I first met Ericka nearly two years ago, there were three things I learned about her straight away. The first was that she was named for Erica Kane, and her mother’s special fascination with the glamorous long-running soap vixen.

That said, how could Ericka not live up to my second discovery, as a young woman with a distinct and somewhat historical sense of style. I noticed it the first minute I met her; there’s something about her the flow of her feminine frocks that reveals a past life of the ‘30’s or ‘40’s.

Thirdly, though diminutive in stature, Ericka is a powerful little lady with a hawk’s eye attention for detail. There’s a reason I nicknamed her Little Miss Fingerprint. I wouldn’t want to be caught leaving a fingerprint behind for Ericka to find! (And if there is one to be found, just know that Ericka will find it.)

It was about 6 ½ years ago that Little Miss Fingerprint met Jose when they were both students at Hunter College. It wasn’t until two years later that they went on their first date, and it was last fall, on a trip to Aruba, that Jose (a field technician for an Internet/phone provider) proposed with a vintage-style diamond under a Caribbean sky.

I thought it might be fun to countdown the months towards Ericka’s wedding together, and so, I asked her a few certifiable “girl talk” questions about her and her newly betrothed.

How did you meet Jose?

I met him on my way to class one day. I was on the escalator and he was standing 2 steps behind me. He tapped me on the shoulder and told me I had thee most beautiful eyes. He took me by surprise – I swore up and down that he was just a cute construction worker going to school when I looked at him!! I thanked him so much for the compliment and told him he had made my day; I was already having a bad day. He told me that he was glad he could do that and hoped that I have a great rest of the day.

What made you look twice at him?

After we ran into each other in the hallways of school we kept in touch and hung out. A few things made me consider Jose as a ‘future’ possibility. After I ended my 3 year relationship with my ex boyfriend, Jose stood by and listened as I cried and poured my heart out almost every night. He never said one bad thing against anyone. He just listened. I knew that by that time, he didn’t just care for me as a friend; he truly cared about me unconditionally. For any guy to put up with a girl at a time like that must have more feelings that one could imagine. I knew after a few months of dating that I couldn’t let this relationship pass me by. After about 6 months, I decided it was time to let go and try it out with Jose. We were great and by the time 10 months came rolling in, I knew it was time to let go of the past and start something new with Jose.

When did you know you wanted to marry him?

Jose has so many good qualities I didn’t know which one exactly drew me to him. For one thing, he knew how to love and love unconditionally. I’ve never met someone who was so giving and considerate. I knew I wanted to be with someone who could understand me just the same. It’s going to sound funny, but I definitely knew that I wanted to marry Jose when he gave me a great foot rub! I’m really picky about any one touching my feet especially, but when Jose grabbed my feet and soothed the pain away I knew it was the beginning of something great! As funny as it might sound, it’s just nice to know that at the end of the day, there is someone that will take care of you no matter what!

What do you consider to be your wedding style?

My wedding style is both modern and traditional. I chose not to have the wedding in any hall or ballroom because I wanted to have a more relaxed setting where people could enjoy the outdoors but still enjoy dinner and dancing indoors. I wanted a garden feel to my wedding so I opted to have my wedding reception at a Golf Course where I have the option of having a tent overlooking the course while people can roam inside the manor house or the patio.

For the ceremony, Jose and I had already agreed that we wanted something traditional so we decided to have our vows exchanged at one of our churches. We decided on my church (Most Holy Trinity- St. Mary’s) in Brooklyn.


What’s most important to you with your wedding?

The most important part to me is the ceremony. Words can probably never express how much love and respect Jose and I have for one another and I don’t think I can really explain how deep that love is. I would love to be able to express that deep commitment at our ceremony; to be able to exchange our vows in from of our family, friends and loved ones.

Aside from that, I sincerely and honestly hope that everyone has a great time at our wedding and just enjoy the celebration.


The date, my friends, is May 30th 2010. So follow us, at the end of every month, as we keep you updated in the ins and outs of this stylish, spunky little bride’s journey down towards and eventually down the aisle!